It could save your life.
In my informal polls with friends, colleagues, and clients, the overall consensus is that “selfish” has a negative connotation. Essentially something that “shouldn’t” be done. Otherwise, there are bad or guilty feelings, internal tension, or at minimum, additional stress. None of which are good for you.
One day I was inspired to look up the suffix, “-ish.” Good news; “-ish” essentially means, “relating to.”
So, let me get this straight. Somewhere along the way, relating to your self became a bad thing!?!
It doesn’t make any sense. However, as you know, words have energetic power and if you are contracting against something that could actually save your life, it is time for a redefinition.
Is “save your life” a bit dramatic? Yes and no. It depends on your current perspective and corresponding actions. Do you cater to others, external obligations, or should’s most of the time even though you are exhausted and depleted? Perhaps there is a simmering volcano of resentment mixed in there too? In this scenario, relating to your Self can save your life – quality for sure, potentially quantity as well.
The human being reality is that if you do not turn towards YOUR needs (and act on them), something is going to break down (body-mind-emotions-spirit-soul) and it will not be pretty.
A slightly less dramatic example: you – or someone you know – are so tired (a physiological reality being expressed from your body wisdom), want a break/day off/vacation (a very human need to rest), but don’t want to let so-and-so down, so you keep going because you want to avoid the bad feelings that come from the warped definition of selfish and end up becoming more tired, cranky, etcetcetc. Not pretty.
(I am a recovering martyr. I know.)
It is time to up-level “selfish” into this current era, let your Self off the hook from the disempowering brainwashing, and redefine what this life-saving action really means.
“RELATING TO SELF” IDEAS:
What is a word, image, metaphor, or other mental place cards that you can insert when you feel the ugh of “selfish?” What will inspire, uplift, and support your birthright to take exquisite care of ALL of you?
If you have any hesitation whatsoever, listen to your body. It tells you the truth of your experience. No one else’s, just yours. You get to listen and respond.
The result? More of the best you to light up the world!
After all, this is what we are here for.
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Hi, I’m Denise Stegall,
As a speaker, teacher, transformational life coach, and curator of Living Healthy List my experience ignites ideas, conversation, and connection. I am a connector, a leader who radiates emotional intelligence, strength, positivity, resilience, and a zest for life!
I bring you 20 years of experience/study in nutrition, cooking, exercise, and coaching to show you how you can enjoy a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life through nutrition and self-empowerment.
I earned my Bachelors’s Degree in Hotel, Restaurant, and Business Management with a focus on nutrition, experience in the hospitality industry and has certifications in Health Coaching, Life Coaching, Nutrition, ETP and Plant-Based Cooking.
My experience in cooking and nutrition delivers a unique perspective on what works (and doesn’t work) for most people. The Living Healthy List Method uses three pillars: Eat Real Food, Make Good Decisions, and Be Accountable. By following this simple plan anyone can have a truly healthy, happy, and fulfilling life.
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As an authentic connector, inspirational thought leader I am determined to provide Living Healthy List readers with honest, reliable, research-backed content that can be implemented in real life to help you create a healthy, happy life you are working hard to find so you can grow, relax and transform into the person you always dreamed of being! Feeling more confident. Reaching beyond your limitations. Enjoying life more. And that’s only the beginning. You will be the best YOU when it comes to beauty, balance, and self-realization.