Boredom is often cited as a top reason why sex in a long-term relationship fizzles. In your attempt to enhance your sexual experience, you may introduce sex tricks, sex toys, sex talk to your love life. While tricks are great treats to throw into the mix every now and again, they cannot sustain the thrill in the long run. Novelty acts never win over the real thing. Don’t throw away your toys, but understand that for the long haul you need something else. Sensuous love requires your individual Fantabulous Five. Using your five senses can and will provide hours of sensual/sexual bliss in a natural and distinctively personal way. Yes, all you need for sensuous love is your 5 senses.
Living life through your five senses is what puts pleasure in the mundane details that dominate our lives. Sensuous living keeps you grounded in the moment and makes you happier and more appreciative of the world around you. The same is true of sensuous love. Staying mindful of all that you see, feel, hear, smell, and taste while making love increases your pleasure and keeps your mind and body in the present, thus making you more responsive to your partner. Sensuous loving also helps you create memorable sexual experiences together, rather than simply engaging in sexual acts.
Stimulate Your Senses
Incorporating anything that stimulates your five senses will boost your lovemaking experience to another level. Try different music, textures, locations—things that incorporate your mood and individual preferences at the time. Not every lovemaking session need not be candlelight and roses though that can be nice as well. Feeling raw and passionate? Turn on some music with a pumping beat. Make love on the sisal rug in the living room, and enjoy the rough, sensual side of your passion. Feeling cozy and romantic? Make love wrapped in the cool feel of cotton sheets, with the rain as your soundtrack.
Studies show that certain scents like rose, patchouli, and sandalwood increase sexual desire. Have your favorite scents ready to ignite with the flick of a match or a quick spritz adds another sensual layer to your lovemaking. The scents radiating from your partner are perhaps the sexiest of all. Take time to breathe in your lover, from the hint of shampoo left in his hair to his natural body smells.
Food and drink may be tools for your lovemaking, but don’t feel pressure to make every romp in bed a buffet. Different flavored breath mints add sensory variety to your kiss. Experience the variety of natural tastes of your lover’s skin and body on your tongue.
Great sex need not always be a major production full of props and preplanning. It really is as simple as being mindful of the sensory stimulation available in your surroundings, tuning in to your present mood, and using your imagination to incorporate these elements into your lovemaking. Read here for a little more let’s say, motivation. Aside from everything else enjoy!
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Hi, I’m Lori Certified Spiritual Love Coach, Author, Confidence Peddler, Angel Scribe, Irreverent Spiritualist, Girl Power Advocate, Love Connoisseur, Sun Lover, Cloud Watcher, Founder, SOL Innovations Coaching Group, The SOLSexy Transformation program andProud Mom.Officially, I am the founder and lead coach of SOL Innovations Coaching Group, which specializes in 1:1 life coaching to build feminine, spiritual, and creative confidence. I am also the creator of the SOLSexy Transformation, an eight-week program designed to teach women self-love, acceptance, and sexual ownership; and Successful, Single, Ready, a six-month program to teach and empower successful women to attract the love and relationships they desire and deserve.Additionally, I am an Emmy award-winning writer, and author of eight books, including Read Between the Lies, Weapons of Mass Seduction, and Can’t Help the Way that I Feel, and The Power of Wow: A Guide to Unleashing the Confident, Sexy You.
As an entertaining motivational speaker, I have delivered workshops to organizations around the country and Mexico, including the University of Maryland, Kean University, Bloomfield University, the Learning Annex, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Jack and Jill, Inc., The GirlMob, The Red Dot Campaign, The Tiger Mom Project, The Links; the Guardsmen, Life Luxe Jazz Festival, and AMCIAH in Los Cabos, Mexico.I have contributed expert commentary on sensuality and relationships to online and broadcast media including Huffington Post, Essence, Psychologies, and Cosmopolitan Magazines, Examiner.com, iVillage.com, Lovingyou.com, and have appeared on numerous radio and television shows including, Sex with Jaiya, Bliss Radio, After Dark Radio, Sex, Lies, and Medical Cannabis, and the Marilu Henner Show.
I am a graduate of the University of Maryland, College Park, with a B.S. in Journalism, and I am a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF), Mothers Off Duty, Inc.,and the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority